In any job, new venture, or in life, self-confidence is a key element to your success. Your confidence impacts how others perceive you and how you feel about yourself.
In general, confidence is about having a sense of trust and self-assurance, and as an Integrative Health Coach, these qualities are vital to your ability to help and inspire others to be their best selves.
Taking on a new client, presenting at a group workshop, or pitching yourself to a potential employer can be intimidating, but here are a few tips to give yourself a confidence boost:
1. Visualization – Before an important event, visualize an image of yourself that you’re proud of. Picture yourself crushing your goals, rocking the interview, and landing the gig. Visualization helps you develop a positive perception of yourself and increase your self-confidence. I remember in my final year of college, a few of us students were representing our school in a regional competition. Our instructor was a seasoned pro and he brought us all to the venue where the competition was going to be conducted the next day. We actually stood on the stage to practice delivering our message. He explained that once we get up there tomorrow, we’ll be less nervous because we will already have been there and done it. What a genius! That exercise truly helped, and I was far less nervous than I would have been! (We ended up placing third, so it wasn’t all lost.) ?
2. Dress the part – You know the saying: “Dress for the job you want, not the job you have.” The clothes you wear can make such a difference in how you feel and how others view you. Boost your confidence by dressing in an appropriate way which shows your personality and makes you comfortable, yet is still fashion forward. Even if you are working at home and have only tele-conferencing sessions with co-workers, be sure to look professional. No pajamas or unkempt hair! It all matters, even online.
3. Rock out – If you need to get out some jitters, turn on your favorite music and have a mini dance party. It’s a great way to let go of some of your stress, get your heart pumping, and increase energy. Also, some studies show that music with heavy bass can help you feel more confident and powerful.
4. Strike a pose –When in doubt, pretend you’re Wonder Woman or Superman! I’m not kidding. The idea behind power poses is that strong body language like the Wonder Woman pose actually makes you feel and appear more confident. Give it a try by standing with your feet wide, shoulders back, and hands on your hips while you stare forward confidently. Hold this stance for two minutes before heading into a client session, interview, or meeting.
5. Focus on body language – You may have heard that 93% of communication is nonverbal. Although there’s some skepticism around the numbers associated with communication, we know body language is extremely important in how you present yourself and how others perceive you. Stand up straight, smile, hold eye contact, and make sure not to cross your arms to communicate the open and welcoming person you are.
6. Act like your role model – Think about someone you admire, whether or not you know them personally. Do they possess qualities you wish you had? How do they act, think, sound, and dress? Fake it until you make it and channel your role model!
7. Silence negative thoughts – We are all guilty of being our own worst critic. Stop the negative loop in your head that says you aren’t good enough, strong enough, or smart enough. Banish the word can’t. Instead, focus on solutions and how you can grow from challenges. When negative thoughts pop up, try adopting a positive mantra like, “I can do this!” And even if you “fail” (it will likely happen), remind yourself this is a good thing! It means you have an opportunity to perfect some aspect of what you’re doing. Improvement is key to future confidence-building! You can get better and crush it next time.
I wish you wellness and confidence in your future endeavors!